The modern family of today is often faced with the dilemma of whether or not a wife should work. This is an important decision for couples to make and should not be taken lightly. It comes with both pros and cons, and each couple must evaluate their unique situation to decide what is best for them. Working can provide financial security and independence, as well as professional development while staying at home can offer more flexibility and the opportunity to be more involved with the family. Ultimately, it comes down to what a couple is comfortable with and what they feel will work best for their family. It is important that couples discuss the pros and cons of having the wife work, so they can make a decision that works for them.
Do You Want Your Wife To Work
It’s up to both partners to decide what would be best for their families. If both of you are comfortable with your wife working, then it is not a problem at all. However, it is important to make sure that everyone’s health and well-being are taken care of first before anything else. If your wife is not feeling well following her work, then it would be best for her to take a rest instead.
Pros Of Wife Working
- Women have a natural desire to be independent and provide. Women are often more motivated to work if they feel they are providing for their family.
- Women can develop the professional skills that help them be more successful in their careers. Women who work and become professionals can bring value to their families and relationships, as well as to their careers.
- Working women are often more financially secure than stay-at-home women, which may allow them to take on additional income-generating responsibilities when needed (such as staying home with the children).
- Working women are generally happier than stay-at-home women, according to research studies. This is because working women have a greater sense of accomplishment, feel more in control of their lives, and find meaning in what they do for work (which is not always true for stay-at-home moms).
- Working mothers tend to be healthier than stay-at-home moms, according to research studies. Working women are more likely to get regular exercise, eat better, and not have as many physical health problems (such as high blood pressure or achy joints) than stay-at-home moms.
Cons Of Wife Working
- Women with young children often have less control of the household and more stress. When women are at home and take care of younger children, they have much less control over when and how often the kids get up, eat, play, or nap. This can be incredibly stressful for mothers who are trying to find a balance between work and home life.
- Women may feel incompetent if they are not as great at multitasking while they are working outside the home as they were while staying at home.
- It can be hard to find one’s identity without being a primary caregiver for the family. Having both parents working is a great way to allow each parent’s personality to shine through at home while keeping up with life as mother/father at work.
- Parents may experience salary differences between their partner’s job and their own career when both parents go to work outside the family home. The husband may get paid more than his wife because his career is valued more by his company, and the wife earns less because of her job choice.
- It’s possible for one parent to neglect one or more of their children more than the other parent when both parents work outside the home. For instance, if both parents go to work, but the father does most of the childcare and shopping for the family, he might feel like he’s doing too much for his children when he sees them only a few times a week. When women stay at home and have full control of all activities with their children, it’s usually easier for their husbands to schedule time with them because they don’t have consistent requirements that must be met.
- When both parents work outside the home, there may be less income than when one parent stays at home and the other works outside of the home. This can create financial stress because either spouse may have to work longer or harder to make ends meet. When one spouse has a career that pays more or is more in demand, he or she may be able to take on another job without much difficulty. However, when a woman chooses not to “opt-out” of working for significant periods of time (e.g., making more money is essential for her family’s financial security), she may find that she has trouble finding jobs that are as fulfilling as her last full-time job.
- Families with two working parents tend to spend more money than families who only have stay-at-home parents. When women go back to work after having a baby, they often feel obligated to start spending $300/week just like they did before having their children (when it was their husband who was making the money).
- If a mother goes back to work, she may be tempted to spend more money on herself. This can have an effect on her relationship with her husband because his paycheck gets cut and he doesn’t feel that she’s “keeping up” with him.
- Even though both parents have jobs that pay well, they may have to pay for daycare or send their children to after-school programs or play groups. This expense is considered an unnecessary expense by many people and can hinder the ability of families to save money for the future or make large purchases such as a new car. Furthermore, both parents are spending money whether it’s their own or someone else’s dollars.
- It’s possible for one spouse to be wrongfully accused of spending too much of their family’s income (when it was actually the other spouse who spent all of the money). As we discussed in Chapter 4 , in most cases, women are blamed for spending too much when they are working outside of the home.
- When women go back to work after having a baby, they may feel devalued and less respected if they stay home with their children. As one woman told me in a clinical interview: “I just don’t feel like I’m on a level playing field with my male counterparts. I always get the feeling that the people I work with think that the more I contribute and take on, the more they want me to do.”
- Some women hire consultants who help them navigate through the unique challenges of working and parenting. One woman asked me how she could justify spending money on consultants and other professionals when her husband makes over twice what she does (a typical situation in many families). In her case, though, she wasn’t spending much of her family’s money since both parents make well above minimum wage: “I don’t believe that my husband would mind if I spent some money.”
- For some men it may be helpful for them to learn about child rearing issues and recommend some professionals or books to their wives.
- As I mentioned in Chapter 4 , for some women, learning how to budget and manage their money might be very difficult if they have not learned how to budget and manage their money before having children.
The modern family of today is often faced with the dilemma of whether or not a wife should work. This is an important decision for couples to make and should not be taken lightly. It comes with both pros and cons, and each couple must evaluate their unique situation to decide what is best for them. Working can provide financial security and independence, as well as professional development, while staying at home can offer more flexibility and the opportunity to be more involved with the family. Ultimately, it comes down to what a couple is comfortable with and what they feel will work best for their family.